Flowers of sympathy
Which flower to give to offer condolences: support, respect and presence in grief.
Finding the words in the face of a death is hard. A flower says what you cannot: "I am thinking of you, you are not alone".
Restrained flowers
The white rose is the flower of reflection and peace: it expresses respect, sympathy and hope. Light and discreet shades suit better than bright colours. In France, the chrysanthemum is linked to All Saints' Day and cemeteries, so it is avoided for a living loved one.
When to write
In the first days, a simple word is enough. Later, when those around drift away, a message reminds them you are still there. No delay is too late to show support.
Simple words
Avoid stock phrases. Recall a memory of the person who has died, or offer your help in a concrete way. Your voice can also bring comfort.